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Bullying

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Bullies come in all shapes and sizes. It's done to (and by) children and adults. Below are just a few of the recent headlines. What are your thoughts on bullying?

Making The Bus Monitor Cry (Karen Huff video)
Karen Klein: Bus Monitor Bul...n 'Today Show' June 21, 2012
Joel Morales, 12-Year-Old, H... Tease Him About Dead Father
Stormy Rich, Florida High Sc...ing Of Special Needs Student

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JfiSG1nG3496 • 22 Jun 2012, 01:24
My Dad told me how to deal with bullies, grab them and give them a good tap on the chin. Now it's not legal, and everyone is over protected from their own actions. There is no longer any consequences for acting like a cocksucker, or the lawyers swoop in.
I tell my boy (5 years old) the same as my Dad told me. If he gets suspended for knocking a bully I will take him out and treat him, for having great courage and standing up for himself despite authority.
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GenX5804 • 22 Jun 2012, 00:40
With compassion I tell you this truth: Guilt and self pity serve no one. Is there a way that you can take this experience and your feelings about it and enhance your life (and the lives of others) instead? If you think I can be helpful, please let me know.
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Pringlescan23.23K • 22 Jun 2012, 01:22
I've been on the "getting bullied" side. It sucks but kids that are getting bullied today need to step up and stop running away. They're using suicide as a way to get away. I hate that. I sorta get it, but again when I was being bullied I stepped up and shut them up. I've protected my friends from bullies. Almost smashed a kids head into a corner of some concrete stairs cus he constantly tormented a friend of mine. Never did it again.
As well people need better friends. To many times the bullied don't have those friends that will back them up if needed.

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Bayfia24.42K • 01 July 2012, 20:39 Show comment
I was bullied in junior high school so badly by a group of "bad girl friends" that finally my mother removed me from the public school altogether and put me in a Catholic parochial school. That was a terrible hardship on her because her income was so limited, and it was not a FREE school. But I had been hurt, traumatized emotionally, and needed counseling to cope with life after they made me feel like garbage, destroyed my homework, tore up my clothes. It went on day after day for weeks until I stopped going to school (constant pretexts of being sick) .. and the school counselor got involved. (You can't stay home sick forever at the age of 12 without a doctor's confirmation). UGH... what has the world come to that we are not teaching our children the basic "Golden Rule" anymore ("Do to others as you would be done by.") huffyfunkdizzy
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GenX5804 • 01 July 2012, 23:33 Show comment
I am so sorry this happened to you but I am glad you got the help you needed and you're here with us, as you are, today :)

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February14267 • 22 June 2012, 08:50 Show comment
When younger my brother and I were bullied. Not for the usual reasons but because my father was a judge. We lived in a small town. You know the kind...where everyone knows everyone and their cousins as well as the name of the family dog. As time advanced I grew into a faily good sized guy that could stand his own so that settled the problem usually.
Anyway, small town, the school contained K - 12 up until my junior year. One moment that stands out happened the day after my father sentenced a man to jail for the usual 90 days. The man's son was a senior, six grades above me and eight above my brother. I spotted him waiting for us as we were getting off the bus. My brother was in front of me with no way for me to switch places with him. John stepped in front of the door to confront us with the usual threats. My brother, standing on the steps of the bus, took just a couple of moments of it then hauled off with his metal lunch pail (Mighty Mouse if I remember correctly) and smacked John right across his forehead. The blood started gushing as head wounds tend to do causing John to panic and run to the nurse's office. I was paralyzed for a moment until I heard my brother crying. Why? Because broke the thermos bottle in his lunch box and thought mom would be angry. He'd just beaten up a senior and all he could think of was that!
I know bullying today is far worse than it was then but if kids would band together against bullies I think they'd soon learn that bullies are just cowards.
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GenX5804 • 01 July 2012, 23:34 Show comment
Well said.

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Recompense1572 • 22 June 2012, 06:26 Show comment
No idea wtf internet bullying is, sounds a bit like trying to pad every corner in your house because your an idiot. As for bullies, I was bullied and did bully (not exactly uncommon in deep south during 90's). It taught me quite a bit, and also taught me a lot about certain types of people. The entire reason people send their kids to school instead of home schooling is you don't want your kid to be the weird one that his favorite band is his parents favorite band. (creepy) Yes, I learned quickly to fight dirty if they were bigger and when i was best hit hit without warning or better yet back down. In real life your gonna run into complete pieces of shit, at least if you grow up taking up for yourself and others your more mentally prepared for it when it happens. As for all you jack asses who think your kid is really that fragile and stupid, your making them that way. Hell remember when you could trust a kid to go outside all day without fear of murder drugs or maiming, much less getting sued for some inane over protective law. If kids got bullies, inform him pokemon isn't acceptable as a shirt in high school or maybe try to understand what behavior your doing or have that may cause stratification. Not referring to shit that can't be helped, more so to the people that seem to not realize they make themselves huge targets .
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AhrimanThorn29.1K • 22 June 2012, 02:10 Show comment
I was a skinny little shy kid in school and I know only too well what it feels like to be bullied. I grew to hate bullies with a real passion and quickly became a defender of those who could not stand up for themselves. As I have grown older though I have come to realise that sometimes it is the bully as well who needs to be helped. Don’t get me wrong, I have no problem punching a thug in the face, but if I have to use my fists to solve a problem rather than my mind then I haven’t really solved the problem, I have just gone for the quick (and usually temporary) fix.
Many bullies do what they do because they themselves do not feel that they have power and this can sometimes be as a result of a violent or damaged environment in their home lives. I went to school with one such child. His father beat him regularly and when someone got in his way at school or irritated him he would lash out, violence perpetuating violence. The sad thing was, Philip (that was the kid’s name) was a funny and intelligent person. He sometimes made fun of other kids though and got into fist fights on an almost daily basis but when he was finally confronted by a group of us at school over his behaviour, he was really upset that he might find himself without any friends. He might have been a bully, but he had become one because he was naturally sensitive and knew no other way to deal with his own pain other than to pass it on to someone else.

 
Some really are just thoroughly unpleasant pieces of work who get a kick out of tormenting others for their own amusement, and when we meet them we need to stand up to them and let them know that they only have power because they have gone until this moment in their lives, unopposed.
The three story’s in the links above are all prime examples of bullying by groups of people who should have been opposed by those who were around them at the time, but who chose instead to turn a blind eye. One of my favourite quotes is All that is necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing.”(Edmund Burke) Bullies exist because we allow them to exist, and when we learn to overcome our natural reluctance to step in because of the instinct for self preservation, we will have made bullies a thing of the past and until then we must all of us accept some responsibility for their existence.
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JfiSG1nG3496 • 22 June 2012, 01:24 Show comment
My Dad told me how to deal with bullies, grab them and give them a good tap on the chin. Now it's not legal, and everyone is over protected from their own actions. There is no longer any consequences for acting like a cocksucker, or the lawyers swoop in.
I tell my boy (5 years old) the same as my Dad told me. If he gets suspended for knocking a bully I will take him out and treat him, for having great courage and standing up for himself despite authority.
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Pringlescan23.23K • 22 June 2012, 01:22 Show comment
I've been on the "getting bullied" side. It sucks but kids that are getting bullied today need to step up and stop running away. They're using suicide as a way to get away. I hate that. I sorta get it, but again when I was being bullied I stepped up and shut them up. I've protected my friends from bullies. Almost smashed a kids head into a corner of some concrete stairs cus he constantly tormented a friend of mine. Never did it again.
As well people need better friends. To many times the bullied don't have those friends that will back them up if needed.
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Pick_n_Roll21.13K • 22 June 2012, 00:29 Show comment
there should be strict laws for these extreme bad habits!
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GenX5804 • 22 June 2012, 01:00 Show comment
We can barely agree on what Human Rights are world wide, so dealing with internet bullying in a universal way is going to be problematic. Live, in-person bullying is also an issue as it will often vary country to country, state to state. What, exactly, is bullying behaviour and what laws would you like to see put into place?
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Pick_n_Roll21.13K • 22 June 2012, 08:02 Show comment
did I said something wrong to me negative rating!
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February14267 • 22 June 2012, 08:36 Show comment
Nope. You're just being bullied.

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Chronic_91213.61K • 21 June 2012, 23:56 Show comment
I always hung with the people that got bullied, and it was sad. Fight after fight, defending this friend, sticking up for that one. mad Like you said they come in all shapes, sizes, and ages. The best way to deal with a bully (like I told my friends) hit them where it hurts. You catch them before they catch you. Lunch time was always the bet time. I might of ran my mouth to much one time, because one of my friends beat this football player with a lunch tray until it broke. He was expelled from all the county schools. cry In the long run it made him out a pretty tough guy to be as little as he is.
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GenX5804 • 22 June 2012, 00:50 Show comment
When I was in first grade, I took on fourth grader for habitually beating up a smaller shy kid with glasses who was not good at sports. I won, and the fallen bully transferred schools the next week. I don't like bullies. They rely on the silent, implied consent of others who do nothing in order to get away with their nasty activities. When someone bullies me, I stand up to them and shine a spotlight on their activities. For some reason, they dislike that, and they often shut up and slink off in shame. Go figure. :)
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Chronic_91213.61K • 22 June 2012, 03:53 Show comment
I love your method!!biggrin
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kanada6252 • 22 June 2012, 11:01 Show comment
nice

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SirSeedsAlot109.57K • 21 June 2012, 23:14 Show comment
In junior high i lived in New Mexico and had one friend in school. We got into a fist fight and later that week he hung himself. I will never forgive myself...
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tyr14718 • 21 June 2012, 23:26 Show comment
Sh~t thats rough,must have been underlying problems though it wasn't down to you personally,i've known 4 to do that and they were "happy" tears of a clown,must stay with you though but in time eases
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Chronic_91213.61K • 21 June 2012, 23:45 Show comment
OMG That's sad...it wasn't because you guys got into a fight was it?
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GenX5804 • 22 June 2012, 00:40 Show comment
With compassion I tell you this truth: Guilt and self pity serve no one. Is there a way that you can take this experience and your feelings about it and enhance your life (and the lives of others) instead? If you think I can be helpful, please let me know.
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Recompense1572 • 22 June 2012, 06:32 Show comment
Not always the case and dude don't blame yourself, that kid as try said mustve had major issues. Kind of crazy to think that did it. My closest friend (for literally 23 years) I've hit him with a bat and accidentally cut off his pinky finger tip, we've been in countless and i mean countless fist fights. Mostly over stupid shit, but at end of it, id kill anybody who hurt him and id lay down in the road if he asked. Fights, eh fuck it , they happen. I wouldn't respect him if he wouldn't occasionally say " oh hell naw." normally right before violence erupts. Pretty sure he's broken two of my ribs at least
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kanada6252 • 22 June 2012, 11:04 Show comment
holy sh**
there is no way that could be your fault
sounds like he had some deep issues

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